We are living in an era where everyone is using whichever means they can to find love. In as much as finding love is the best thing that can happen to any individual, singlehood on the other hand is unavoidable; everyone of us has been single at some point in life and it’s certain there are things you didn’t like being told when you were single.
It’s quite interesting how people in relationship can at times be very preoccupied with the dating lives of their single friends. When you’re single, a lot of people around you tend to dwell so much on your love life which in most cases is the responsible for comments which are unhelpful and annoying. For most people, being single is not by choice and therefore what you say to them really matters. In any case, there’s nothing wrong with being single.
The following are common phrases that single people hate.
This is a common yet annoying phrase for singles. It is imprudent for one to make it look as if it’s your fault you are single especially when whoever is telling you this doesn’t know the real reason why you’re single. It’s outright impolite and insensitive.
Even though it may appear to be a harmless statement, some single people don’t take it kindly when you tell them this. This comment may be interpreted to mean you are desperate and really looking for love. If you’re single, emphasize that you’re okay being single and look forward to meeting the ‘right’ person and not just anyone for the sake of it.
It goes without saying, single people at times feel lonely. However, it’s not appropriate for loneliness to be used to force your way into dating. At times, it is better to remain single for a little longer and search for the right partner who will make you happy rather than being in an unhappy relationship just because you fear being single and lonely.
Love has no age limits and nobody should patronize you for being old yet you’re still single. There are several people who have found their ideal partner, got married and had kids when they are well into their 40s. Nobody can set your dating timelines except you more so if you are keen on finding the right partner.
Online dating is the new dating technique in town and everyone is excited. However, when someone tries to suggest to you to find love online, they’re not aware whether you’ve already tried or not and if you tried, whether you succeeded in finding the right person. Dating online works for some while for others, things don’t go as planned. If you didn’t find your ideal partner online, your friends shouldn’t keep reminding you. In the end, it’s up to you to determine whether you want to find love online or stick with the traditional approach.
Sure, there are a lot of people out there looking for love but the huge number doesn’t necessarily translate into perfect matches. Out of 10 dates, you could only find one interesting match or even none to consider for the second date.
There’s a major difference between being nit-picky and being aware of the qualities you are looking for in a potential partner. As a single person, you might be told you’re too rigid when it comes to picking a partner yet the underlying reason for remaining single is you haven’t found anyone who has the personality you are looking for. It is not a crime taking your time to find your ideal partner; In any case, it’s you who will spend time with them.
Unless you’ve specifically asked for help, nobody has the right to fix for you a date. If you not comfortable with the idea, your friends should respect your decision. The only other place singles allow fixing dates is when they’ve signed up for matchmaking and speed dating events. When someone tells you this, a simple “no thanks” is adequate if you aren’t interested; you shouldn’t be pressured.
Every single person will agree they’ve been told one or more of the above statements regarding being single. It’s important to reiterate that being single or deciding to date is a personal choice. Therefore, nobody should judge and have perceptions about you.
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